Liberate Yourself by Being Honest

“Integrity is telling myself the truth, and honesty is telling the truth to other people.” – Spencer Johnson

I have a very dear friend whom I love deeply. I told her the truth, which she did not want to accept. Her reaction was such anger that I instantly regretted having been honest with her. The hurt was so deep that it took many months to erase the negative effect of this conversation. At its core, being honest is difficult because it makes you
vulnerable. If I had hidden the truth or lied to begin with then I would have avoided being rejected by the person who I care about and to whom I had told the truth.

By being honest you are avoiding distorting reality and are assisting the person with whom you have interacted to grow and achieve. No allegiance or loyalty can require that you remain silent in the presence of injustice.

However, there will be times when it is wise to pray, meditate, deeply reflect and listen to your intuition, that still small voice within – thus knowing when to keep quiet and when to speak out.

“A person who wants to speak should think upon what he is about to say before he utters it. If it then shows itself to have some benefit to it, he may speak it; otherwise he should refrain from doing so.” – Al-Nawawî

Everyone has the opportunity to make choices based on truth, integrity, respect, responsibility and justice. All of which develop character, as well as credibility and trust. All are the building blocks of high self-esteem and healthy relationships. Integrity is the choice you display in your everyday behaviour. It is the actions which follow your words and beliefs. Being honest is a lifelong challenge but will benefit you throughout your life. Nothing is as liberating as having nothing to hide. Remember that being honest is not easy. Live your life upholding these values and people will consider your input as a valued opinion.

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.” – Reinhold Niebuhr

This post is an excerpt taken from my book You’re Awesome. You can read the full chapter in my book.